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About Myra McElhaney

I'm an author, speaker and fun enthusiast! After 30+ years as a keynote speaker, corporate trainer and writer, my purpose is to enjoy life and do good! My mission is to inspire women to make their third of life the best of life!

Christmas Tree-dition

David and Josh with tree 2013My Christmas Tree brings me so much joy! I see the various ornaments collected over a lifetime and smile at the memories each one brings.

Our first Christmas as a married couple, Phil and I had a ‘tree trimming’ party and friends brought ornaments. Over seventeen years of marriage we collected ornaments from our travels and special ones to signify something significant for each year. A ‘first Christmas together’ ornament frames a photo from our first year of marriage. A Harley-Davidson ornament for the year we bought a new motorcycle. A ‘new home’ ornament when we moved into a new house. Ornaments from our annual ski trips and vacations around the world. Continue reading

What would you do if you were brave?

“Sometimes what looks like courage is just fear pointed in the right direction.”

– Myra McElhaney

Recently while recuperating from a nasty virus I was lounging on the couch and watching Oprah TV. The show with author Marianne Williamson focused on her book, “Age of Miracles: The New Midlife.” They featured women who had done brave things after age 50 like starting a new business, embracing love and accomplishing athletic challenges. It reminded me of Jana Stanfield’s song, “If I Were Brave.” Myra on ropes 10Jana’s video also highlights people who did something ‘brave’ like start school at an advanced age, jumped out of planes, moved to start a life that was dramatically different from the one they’d had. Of course this made me ask the question, “What would I do if I were brave?” Continue reading

From Thinking to Feeling

“You’re over thinking this.”

The observation could have come from a business consultant, coach or therapist. It could relate to any aspect of my life.

Myra, June & Jerry at DirtbikeThe remark came from my dirt bike instructor. I looked at June Cline, the adventurous friend who was taking the motocross class with me. “Ya, think?” she smirked. “How long you been trying to figure that one out?” Yes, the life lessons we need seem to keep popping up wherever we are, she reminded me. Work, relationships, health, spirituality, finances, even my recreation. I overthink it all. Maybe that’s why I crave adventure. Continue reading

Want to grow with me?

Can you believe I’ve been in the speaking business for over twenty years now? Yesterday, talking with a friend who has been doing this even longer prompted me to do the math. I started training for the Liz Claiborne company about 1989. Within a few years I was on my own as an independent corporate trainer. With that I began doing keynotes, conference breakout sessions and speaking for non-profit groups and associations. Continue reading

Networking is about relationships

(This blog is an excerpt from my program on “Networking to Build a Book Platform” for a Memoir Writing Workshop with Ronda Rich on September 14, 2013)writing workshop

What is networking? Webster’s Dictionary defined networking as, “the exchange of information or services among individuals, groups, or institutions; specifically :  the cultivation of productive relationships for employment or business.” Two key words to note here. “Exchange.” Networking has give and take. “Relationships.” Networking is about building relationships. Before we go on let’s look at what networking is not. Continue reading

Relationships Matter the Most

“What matters most is the relationships we have in life,” Joe Daniels, President, 9/11 Memorial.

9 11 memorial

Today I look out my living room window to the heart of Buckhead and the view I love. I wonder what went through the minds and hearts of those who lived in view of the World Trade Centers as they looked out their windows on September 11th, 2001. I think of this, not only today, but every time I see an airplane that looks like it’s too close to one of the tall buildings I’ve come to know from my window. Continue reading

Who inspires you to live with passion?

 “As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.” –Marianne Williamson

 Mary Ann and Myra in downtown Atlanta

 
Mary Ann and Myra in downtown Atlanta

“I’m so excited!” Mary Ann said, waving her hands in the air and stamping her feet with the exuberance of a child who’d just entered the gates at Disney. “When I heard Bruno Mars was coming to town I just thought, ‘Who’s crazy enough to go with me?’” she added. Continue reading

Plans and Publishing

 “If you want to make God laugh, tell him your future plans.” –Woody Allen

I met Ronda Rich when she was a senior in high School and I was selling cosmetics at the local department store.  The girl needed some lip gloss! If you know Ronda you understand. She was fashionista before we knew the word. She later worked part-time at the store with me. Eventually I left my glamor job at the cosmetic counter to work in advertising at the local newspaper. Ronda was there doing her college internship in the sports department. Our friendship grew. I eventually moved to the metro Atlanta area to seek fame and fortune. Ronda graduated, became an award-winning journalist then moved away to become a NASCAR publicist. Somehow we lost touch. Continue reading

Why Vikki Locke is my hero!

Vikki LockeMy clock radio is tuned to b98.5FM and for the past few years I awoke to the sound of my dear friend, Vikki Locke, Atlanta’s first lady of radio. That ends Friday, June 21st. After twenty years on Atlanta radio she’s signing off. A more flexible schedule will allow her to spend lots of time with her father who was recently diagnosed with cancer and to start a new business venture. Atlanta airwaves will miss her distinctive laugh, crystal clear voice and quick wit.

People think you have to be good friends to travel with someone but Vikki and I met for the first time in the Atlanta airport just before taking off on what turned out to be the first of many trips together. Our husbands were racquetball buddies. Her husband, Mike Hughes had invited Phil and me to join them and a few other couples to spend the weekend in his home town of Chicago. With a big smile, Vikki was friendly and gracious. I had no idea what special friends she and Mike would become. The four of us shared a love for wine, good restaurants and travel. Over the years we all took trips, visited each other’s homes, went out to eat and attended fundraising events together. Vikki and I bonded over our dedication to empowering women.

It was easy to admire her professionalism, work ethic and desire to help others. In addition to her radio career, Vikki does an amazing amount of charity work and never flinches when asked to emcee an evening fundraising event, despite having to get up at 3am to be on the radio. Children’s Health Care of Atlanta, Komen for the Cure, Elton John AIDS Foundation, Cystic Fibrosis Foundation, Chayil (for battered women), My House (for boarder babies), the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society and PALS (Pets Are Loving Support) are a few of the charities that she’s helped over the years. Drop Dead Gorgeous (to prevent sex trafficking) gave Vikki a lifetime achievement award for her charitable work in the Atlanta Community. I’m exhausted just thinking about it all!

I saw that Vikki makes friendships a priority as I got to know women she’s been friends with for years. And I experienced it first-hand. When my husband was diagnosed with cancer Mike was one of the first people I called. They came to the hospital immediately. For the next eighteen months they stayed close, holding our hands in the tough times and celebrating the good days. They were both sitting by Phil’s bed as he took his last breath. Vikki had to work the next day but she wouldn’t go home to rest. She made calls to give our friends and family the sad news, helped chose music for the funeral and stayed with me into the evening. The next morning despite the sadness of losing a friend and a complete lack of sleep, she was on-air waking up Atlanta and making people laugh.

Vikki spoke at Phil’s funeral. They drove to Tennessee for the burial. Mike texted or called every day for months then gradually tapered off to checking on me weekly for the first year. It’s been four years now and Mike has never missed reaching out to me on Valentine’s Day, birthdays and every anniversary of Phil’s death. As anyone who has been widowed knows, the couples you hung out with before lose touch quickly when you’re now only half of a couple. Not Mike and Vikki. Vacations, home-cooked meals, restaurants, movies, charity events—all the stuff we did as couples—they still include me.

Recently I helped Vikki host ‘Women in Media’ fundraising luncheon to benefit Emerge Scholarships for women. Rather than be in the spotlight at the luncheon she worked so hard to put together, Vikki invited other local media women to take the stage. Karyn Greer of 11-Alive did the welcome and Nancy Grace of HLN was the Special Guest speaker. When Atlanta Radio & TV Host, Mara Davis and All News 106.7’s Melissa Carter spoke they both talked of how Vikki had helped and advised them over the years. Other local media personalities Kaedy Kiely, Holly Firfer, Richard Eldredge, Gina Christman, Kimberley Kennedy, Jennifer Brett, Jessica Forkel and Kristen Gates were also Vikki’s guest at the event. It was easy to see how much she was admired and respected by the very women that one would consider her competition.

The love of family, bonds of friendships, contributions to charitable causes, the respect of her peers. Vikki may be hanging up her microphone but her positive influence continues its broadcast across Atlanta!

Miss Utah flubbed the answer. Or did she?

The internet is burning up with video of Miss Utah stumbling through the interview portion of this year’s Miss USA contest. The question, posed by contest judge NeNe Leakes was, “A recent report shows that in 40% of American families with children women are the primary earners yet they continue to earn less than men. What does this say about society?”

Miss Utah flashed a big beauty contest smile and started, “I think we can relate this back to education and how we are continuing to try to strive…to…” You can see the panic in her eyes as she flashes another smile and realizes she doesn’t know where to go with this answer. Then she continues, “Figure out how to create jobs right now. That is the biggest problem and I think especially the men are seen as the leaders of this and so we need to figure out how to create education better so we can solve this problem.”

Winning third runner-up anyway; she got a second chance at the question on The Today Show. “It’s not OK,” she said. “It needs to be equal pay for equal work and it’s hard enough already to earn a living and it shouldn’t be harder just because you’re a woman.” Matt Lauer applauded.

First, let’s give her a break! She’s a 21-year-old singer, model and actress who most likely never had to think much about inequity in pay. Many 31, 41 and 51-year-olds in the workforce probably couldn’t answer the question either.

What does the inequity in pay say about society? It says that we don’t value women’s work as much as we value men’s work. Ouch!

We prefer to explain the pay inequity by saying that many women work part time or that women take time out for childrearing and that skews the statistics to show that women’s pay is lower. Yet research shows that in the same jobs for the same companies women are often paid less than men.

Saying, “we have to pay men more because they have families” sounds like something from an episode of Mad Men but just last year many women participating in a class action suit against one of the country’s largest employers testified that’s what they’d been told.

This class action lawsuit was brought by 1.5 million women who claimed that Walmart systemically promoted and gave raises to men over women. It was dismissed by the Supreme Court—not won—just dismissed. They ruled that the group was too large and diverse to be considered a ‘class.’

Miss Utah was actually right the first time. This relates back to education.

Education for companies. During the years leading up the dismissal of their lawsuit, Walmart got educated. They learned from their mistake and quickly hired female executives, promoted women and got involved in women’s initiatives across the country.

Education for women. Statistics show that women don’t negotiate as well as men for salaries, raises and promotions. Many books like Sheryl Sandberg’s recent bestseller, “Lean In” are available for women to educate themselves on workplace inequities and how to handle them.

Education for men. As Miss Utah said, “they are the leaders” (in most companies anyway) and they need to be educated as to how to ensure equitable pay and opportunities at all levels of their companies.

Education for society. Men and women are different. And that’s a good thing! But pay should be determined by job requirements, performance and results. Not gender. As a society, when we value woman equally to men, we will not pay them less.