About Myra McElhaney

Myra McElhaney is a writer and speaker. Her articles have appeared in various publications including Atlanta Woman, Customer Relationship Management, Competitive Edge, USIndustry Today and The Gwinnett Business Journal. Her work is included in three anthology books including, Reach for the Stars, and Exceptional Accomplishment, both published by Brookfield and James and CLIMB: Leading Women In Technology Share Their Journeys To Success published by Women in Technology in 2010. Just in time for Mother’s Day of 2011, Myra released a book of quotes from her Mama entitled, "Mama Always Says…" In August 2011 she published a book of poetry called, "MUSINGS on Major and Minor Matters that May or May Not Matter." Additionally she writes a blog for businesswomen called, Advancing Women in Business and writes a blog and weekly newsletter for ArtsCard.com about local theatre and entertainment. When not busy with various writing projects, Myra stays active in the community by serving on the advisory board of The Professional Women’s Information Network, working with the PR committee for Women in Technology, maintaining membership in the Board of Director’s Network and the International Alliance of Women and participating in fundraising events to support Brain Tumor Research. For fun she enjoys travel, entertaining, stimulating conversation, clever rapport and laughter. Her books include "MUSINGS on Major and Minor Matters that May or May Not Matter" published by BookLogix, August 2011; "Mama Always Says…" published by BookLogix, May 2011; "CLIMB: Leading Women In Technology Share Their Journeys To Success" published by Women in Technology in 2010; "Reach for the Stars" published by Brookfield and James. and "Exceptional Accomplishment" published by Brookfield and James.

Fresh start

Don’t you love a fresh start?

That’s something I’m always thankful for. Whether it be a new day, a new year, a new job or a new relationship. I love a fresh new start to try something again. To have a second (or third or fourth) start at doing it over and maybe getting it right!

Today I’m doing a fresh start of this blog. I can’t believe it’s been five years since I posted here!

My friend Susan Reece and I had visited South Africa for our 60th birthdays and had a fabulous time! I posted a couple articles about our trip and intended to post more but life got in the way as it sometimes does.

In the last five years I’ve continued to travel, do a little writing and speaking, appeared on a few podcasts, spend time with family and friends and served on the board of Dress for Success Atlanta and on the advisory board of the Professional Women’s Information Network. I’ve made friends, lost friends, survived a pandemic, and taken a more active and ongoing role in caregiving as my mother has suffered several falls, surgeries, broken bones and stays in hospital and rehab.

Now I just turned 65. I’m a senior citizen. What??? Yes, you read that right. I’m a full-fledged senior citizen! I never thought being this old would feel this young! I got my motorcycle license at age 59, learned to kayak and took swimming lessons at age 64. Who knows what the next few years will bring!

I’m rededicating to writing this blog based on my business tagline and life philosophy of “Enjoy Life And Do Good!”

I truly believe that you can ‘enjoy life and do good’ at any age or stage of life.

Here you’ll find stories, humor, irreverence and insights I’ve learned as I purpose to enjoy life and do good!

I’d love it if you read along, subscribe, share, comment, reach out and let me know which articles speak to you and what topics you’d be interested in reading about. (Yes, I ended a sentence with a preposition. As Winston Churchill is often quoted “This is the type of errant pedantry up with which I will not put.”)

Here’s to fresh starts, do-overs and new days!

You can also follow me on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and visit my website at www.MyraMcElhaney.com. My memoir, Building A Life Your Love After Losing the Love of Your Life is available on Amazon.com or you can contact me at Myra@MyraMcElhaney.com for a signed, personalized copy.

Bucket List Africa Trip Part 2: Meeting Khuliso

(This is part 2 of The Bucket List Birthday Trip. Click Here to read part 1.)

with KhulisoArriving at the Johannesburg airport in South Africa, Susan and I scanned the throng of drivers holding signs and iPads™ with names of their guests, we spotted a cell phone with our names displayed. Behind it were the brightest eyes and biggest smile I’ve ever seen. Khuliso Ranwedzi greeted us warmly and introduced himself as our guide and driver while in Jo’burg. His iPad™ had lost power so he used his cell phone to post our names. It was small, but it worked!

As you likely know, South Africa (officially The Republic of South Africa) is the southernmost country in Africa. Many of us in the US think of Africa only as a poor and undeveloped country but ‘Jo’burg’ as the locals call it, is the largest city in South Africa and one of the 50 largest urban areas in the world.

Since SA is a popular tourist destination with 3,5 million visitors annually tourism is an important industry. They take it seriously and go out of the way to help visitors have a grand experience.

Khuliso was an amazing example of hospitality and warmth! Not only was he a wealth of information about the area as he drove us to our hotel, he was friendly, entertaining and quickly became someone we’d trust to take care of us while in Johannesburg. He asked about us and our flight, our plans for the trip and showed us photos of his wife and daughters. Since Susan had a bit of a cold he told her where to easily find a pharmacy without even going outside since our hotel was attached to a mall.

Arriving at the hotel we could tell that he was known and well-liked by the doormen. This was seen repeatedly throughout our time in Jo’burg as he shepherded us through our itinerary. He always laughed and joked with other tour guides we encountered and it was clear that he was admired and respected.

His laugh and bright smile were a welcome sight each morning. Rather than feeling like we were with a tour guide that was following a script about his country, we felt like we were being shown around town by an old friend who truly loved his city and country and wanted us to know and love it, too.

Khuliso was a child during much of apartheid and was coming of age during the battle for its end. He lived through the racial division, injustices, violent protests and Nelson Mandela’s release from prison and election as the first black president.

Of course, knowing our own country’s segregated history and the fight for equal rights, it’s sobering to realize this was so recent in his country.

Susan asked Khuliso if he ever remembered a time of peace and happiness in his country. After pausing a moment, he replied, “We have hope that someday there will be.”

And yet, despite all hardships, Khuliso is one of the most joyful, positive examples of living with gratitude I’ve ever seen. An example for us all.

What about you? Have you ever met someone who exudes joy and is an example of living with gratitude?

You can also follow me on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and visit my website at www.MyraMcElhaney.com. My memoir, Building A Life Your Love After Losing the Love of Your Life is available on Amazon.com or you can contact me at Myra@MyraMcElhaney.com for a signed, personalized copy.

Bucket List Africa Trip Part 1: Heading to South Africa

South Africa BoundWhen I was in my early 20’s, I met a guy who traveled globally with his family’s business. When I asked what was the most beautiful place he’d ever been, I was surprised by his answer. South Africa.

Since then I hoped to someday go there to see this ‘most beautiful place.’ Of course, for a young gal who’d never been out of the country and had only seen a handful of states, that seemed like a faraway dream.

Fast forward almost forty years. I’ve traveled quite a bit in our country as well as internationally. I’ve checked many places and experiences off my bucket list and even had to start a new list a couple times.

This year as we turned 60 (Yikes!) my friend Susan Reece and I decided to celebrate with a bucket list trip to South Africa.

Someone asked Mama if I was going to South Africa on a mission trip. Susan and I joked that the only missionary work we were planning to do was to put some money into the South African economy! As you know, my tagline and life motto is, “Enjoy Life and Do Good!” For this trip we went full out on ‘enjoying life!’ You only turn 60 once, right?

Elaine Baylos, a travel agent who’s from South Africa and lives in Atlanta now helped to plan our trip. It was amazing! Like four mini vacations strung together since each leg of the trip was so different. Someone asked what I’d change if doing it again. For a first-time visit, I’d change nothing! (Yes, it was that good!) For a second visit I’d omit some of the places that I’m glad I saw once and spend more time exploring others. If Cape Town weren’t so far away I’d make it a second home!

We flew Delta direct from Atlanta to Johannesburg. That’s a thirteen hour flight so we splurged and upgraded to Business Class where we had the amazing sleeping pods. They’re expensive so I won’t be using them for regular travel but if you’re on a long flight and want to actually get some sleep they’re the way to go!

Our itinerary included Johannesburg, Medikwe Game Reserve, Cape Town and Livingstone (Victoria Falls.) We arrived at the Johannesburg airport happy and well-rested–thanks to champagne and sleeping pods—and were ready for our big bucket list adventure!

Tell me about it!

·         Do you have a bucket list?

·         What’s something you plan to check off next?

·         Have you been to South Africa?


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You can also follow me on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and visit my website at www.MyraMcElhaney.com. My memoir, Building A Life Your Love After Losing the Love of Your Life is available on Amazon.com or you can contact me at Myra@MyraMcElhaney.com for a signed, personalized copy.

Facebook, Friends and Referrals

Facebook likeI’ve known Patti for over twenty years but as we caught up over dinner recently I realized that I’ve never sat down and had a one-on-one conversation with her. We’re in the same industry and have seen each other at numerous events over the years.

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Social Media Mistakes That Hurt Your Business

10 Social Media Mistakes

  1. Not having a plan. If you intend to use social media for your business you need to have a plan that outlines who you want to connect with, which social media sites you’ll use, how often you’ll post and what content you’ll share. Planning can save you time and keep you focused.
  2. Not understanding what social media can and can’t do for your business. People often complain that they don’t or can’t get business from social media. You can get brand recognition, publicity, and information, establish yourself as an expert in your industry and make connections… All those benefits can lead to business.
  3. Expecting to get without giving. Social media utilizes ‘pay it forward marketing.’ Giving content in the form of information, articles, introductions and encouragement strengthens connections. When they know, like and trust you they’ll be interested in seeing what product or service you offer—not before. Don’t instant message someone you’ve never corresponded with about your product or service.
  4. Using ‘broadcast only.’ That’s what I call it when people post, broadcasting their messages, but don’t bother to read what their connections are posting. Liking, commenting and sharing the messages of your target market and influencers will strengthen connections.
  5. Spreading negativity. Would you refer business to someone who’s always negative? Someone who frequently complains, rants about perceived injustices or makes fun of their clients or peers? I wouldn’t! People want to do business with nice people. Be nice!
  6. Not respecting the 80/20 rule of social media. The first word in ‘Social media’ is social. It’s expected that you’ll share 80 percent personal content. (Personal as in personable—not private!) Only 20 percent should be business. On a dedicated business pages you don’t need as much personal information but give 80 percent and sell only 20 percent.
  7. Not posting your business or company information. Oddly some people fear appearing ‘salesy’ so they don’t make their business info easy to find. If people don’t know or remember what you do they aren’t likely to think of you when they need your product or service or have a chance to refer someone to you. List your business name and contact in your profile. Occasionally linking to your website, blog, product or business page can easily be done without being pushy.
  8. Not having a recognizable profile photo. Photos of babies, puppies or your team logo are great to post as show your personality but your profile photo is what people see every time you post, comment or share. They need to be able to recognize your face. For business pages you’ll want a professional headshot.
  9. Getting political. Be very careful about sharing political post. Appearing dogmatic or extreme can easily turn off prospective clients and keep people from referring business to you. Even if you’re diplomatic enough to give an opinion without vitriol you can’t control what comments people leave and how the conversation turns. Personally, I miss the days when I didn’t know the political affiliation of everyone around me.
  10. Being boring! Social media is like a huge party where people are coming in and out, having conversations and sharing stuff. If you’re always serious and bland you’re missing an opportunity to show your personality and connect with people.

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Are you cruising around on social media or driving where you want to go?

Social Media sites are vehiclesWhen I was a teenager my sister and I loved to go riding around in town. (Just like in the movie, American Graffiti!) We’d go to the little nearby town and cruise from the square to the Tasty Freeze and back around. Loop after loop; for hours. We wanted to see who else was there and what they were Continue reading

Good News about Social Media

The Good News is...Social MediaIn last week’s paper I read an article outlining how social media is normalizing bad behavior. When we (and especially young people) see our leaders and famous entertainers being rewarded for posting rude and hurtful comments it gives us permission to do the same.

Nothing unites people like a common enemy. When people post negative comments others are quick to pile on or take sides.

Social media satisfies the human need for connection. In person we get immediate feedback about our behavior by facial expression, tone of voice, comments and behaviors of the people we’re with. In social media the feedback (or reward) is through likes, comments and shares.

The good news is that despite the multitude of negative posts; positive posts like Ellen DeGeneres’ Oscar selfie and Beyonce’s pregnancy announcement have gotten a record number of interactions. Videos of puppies and babies are always popular, too.

Even better news is that YOU get to choose! You choose who to follow, what to like, what comments to make and what to share or forward.

The choice is yours. Do you want to spread joy or do you want to spread negativity? Do you want to be a voice of defeat or a voice of encouragement?

I choose joy! I choose positivity!

What will you choose today?



(P.S. If you’re thinking that you’ve read this blog before you may be right! I posted it last week under a different title and am testing to see if I get more clicks on “Bad news about…” or “Good news about…” Thanks for reading!)


Myra McElhaney is an author and speaker who’s purpose in life and business is to Enjoy Life and Do Good! Learn more at MyraMcElhaney.com. Her memoir, Building A Life You Love After Losing the Love of Your Life is available on Amazon.com.


Bad News about Social Media

The bad news is...Social MediaIn today’s paper I read an article outlining how social media is normalizing bad behavior. When we (and especially young people) see our leaders and famous entertainers being rewarded for posting rude and hurtful comments it gives us permission to do the same.

Nothing unites people like a common enemy. When people post negative comments others are quick to pile on or take sides. Continue reading