Why Age Shouldn’t Define You: A Personal Perspective

Does the word “age” bother you?

Recently I was having a conversation with someone and used the phrase, “at this age…” He immediately interrupted me to say that I’m not old and he hates when people use age is a factor in what they can or can’t do.

I explained that I wasn’t saying ‘age’ as in ‘old,’ I was just making a comparison in what I think about the subject now as opposed to earlier in my life.

He obviously doesn’t know me well, as I don’t let age define me. I got my motorcycle license at age 59 and took swim lessons for the first time at age 64–right after I learned to kayak.

I have a few friends who also bristle at the word age. One substitutes the word, “vintage.” Another says at this “wisdom.” Sometimes I say, “at this stage,” in order not to offend the ones who object to “age.” I heard somewhere that we should call ourselves ‘Queenagers.’ I like that!

I’m not old. I am aging. I started the day I was born. And so did you.

Children love to answer the, “how old are you?” question. They are proud of every year. As am I. Age is how many years you’ve been alive. Old is an attitude.

Of course I don’t want to look old. Or act old. I actively work to take care of my body to stay youthful. To look younger, keep my balance and posture and to stay strong and flexible.

What about you? Does the word “age” bother you? How do you like to refer to this stage of your life? Tell me in the comments!

New Year But No New Me!

Happy New Year 2024! Another year to Enjoy Life and Do Good!

It’s customary to start each year with resolutions and a ‘new year; new me’ mindset. I don’t want a new me. At this ‘vintage’ as a friend says to avoid the word ‘age’ I’ve done decades of resolutions, re-do’s, reboots, reflections, and renovations on myself and my business.

In my twenties I became a book-aholic and self-help junkie. My steady diet of self-help, positive mental attitude, spirituality, and how-to-fix-yourself books lasted decades! My career as a speaker/trainer/writer fueled this addiction. My life focused on day-planners, ‘smart goals,’ ‘to-do’ lists and measuring everything by what I did and, most often measuring myself harshly by what I’d left undone.

Not this year. Now as I enter the senior years (Yikes!) I like myself. I don’t want a new me. I just want to be more fully my authentic self and to ‘live my best life,’ as Oprah is famous for saying. At this stage, I want to ease up on the accelerator and enjoy life more. And I still want to live a life that matters and do purposeful work.

For several years now I’ve been praying a prayer that’s actually a MLK quote, “Use me, God. Show me how to take who I am, who I want to be and what I can do and use it for a purpose greater than myself.”

As you may know, my life philosophy and business tagline is ‘Enjoy Life and Do Good!’ I believe that resonates with many other women of my ‘vintage.’

I think that enjoying life is how we show gratitude for the life we’ve been given and that doing good is how we pay it forward.

This year I’ll be writing more about enjoying life and doing good.

What about you?

Are you at a stage of life where you’re over making resolutions?

Does enjoying life and doing good sound like a movement you want to be part of?

I look forward to hearing from you!

Fresh start

Don’t you love a fresh start?

That’s something I’m always thankful for. Whether it be a new day, a new year, a new job or a new relationship. I love a fresh new start to try something again. To have a second (or third or fourth) start at doing it over and maybe getting it right!

Today I’m doing a fresh start of this blog. I can’t believe it’s been five years since I posted here!

My friend Susan Reece and I had visited South Africa for our 60th birthdays and had a fabulous time! I posted a couple articles about our trip and intended to post more but life got in the way as it sometimes does.

In the last five years I’ve continued to travel, do a little writing and speaking, appeared on a few podcasts, spend time with family and friends and served on the board of Dress for Success Atlanta and on the advisory board of the Professional Women’s Information Network. I’ve made friends, lost friends, survived a pandemic, and taken a more active and ongoing role in caregiving as my mother has suffered several falls, surgeries, broken bones and stays in hospital and rehab.

Now I just turned 65. I’m a senior citizen. What??? Yes, you read that right. I’m a full-fledged senior citizen! I never thought being this old would feel this young! I got my motorcycle license at age 59, learned to kayak and took swimming lessons at age 64. Who knows what the next few years will bring!

I’m rededicating to writing this blog based on my business tagline and life philosophy of “Enjoy Life And Do Good!”

I truly believe that you can ‘enjoy life and do good’ at any age or stage of life.

Here you’ll find stories, humor, irreverence and insights I’ve learned as I purpose to enjoy life and do good!

I’d love it if you read along, subscribe, share, comment, reach out and let me know which articles speak to you and what topics you’d be interested in reading about. (Yes, I ended a sentence with a preposition. As Winston Churchill is often quoted “This is the type of errant pedantry up with which I will not put.”)

Here’s to fresh starts, do-overs and new days!

You can also follow me on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and visit my website at www.MyraMcElhaney.com. My memoir, Building A Life Your Love After Losing the Love of Your Life is available on Amazon.com or you can contact me at Myra@MyraMcElhaney.com for a signed, personalized copy.

Pokémon Go Away!

Pokemon Go AwayIn 2009 only weeks after my husband had died I noticed a strange car sitting across from my house. It was an even distance between the two houses on the other side of the street so I wondered if someone was visiting either neighbor why they didn’t park closer or in the driveway of their host. Continue reading

The Power of Storytelling

Genius“…in the days of cavemen people gathered around the campfire at night and someone would start talking, telling a story, and it made them less afraid.”

Renowned book editor Max Perkins says this to acclaimed author, Thomas Wolfe in the new movie, Genius. (It’s based on the book, Max Perkins: Editor of Genius by A. Scott Berg.) Continue reading

Coopetition Among Whales

Whales bubble-net feeding in Alaska
Whales bubble-net feeding in Alaska

I recently went on a whale-watching expedition while on an Alaskan cruise. We had seen one or two whales in the distance, blowing water high into the air, arching their backs just above water then diving with their tails flipping up as if to wave. Continue reading

Want to grow with me?

Can you believe I’ve been in the speaking business for over twenty years now? Yesterday, talking with a friend who has been doing this even longer prompted me to do the math. I started training for the Liz Claiborne company about 1989. Within a few years I was on my own as an independent corporate trainer. With that I began doing keynotes, conference breakout sessions and speaking for non-profit groups and associations. Continue reading

Plans and Publishing

 “If you want to make God laugh, tell him your future plans.” –Woody Allen

I met Ronda Rich when she was a senior in high School and I was selling cosmetics at the local department store.  The girl needed some lip gloss! If you know Ronda you understand. She was fashionista before we knew the word. She later worked part-time at the store with me. Eventually I left my glamor job at the cosmetic counter to work in advertising at the local newspaper. Ronda was there doing her college internship in the sports department. Our friendship grew. I eventually moved to the metro Atlanta area to seek fame and fortune. Ronda graduated, became an award-winning journalist then moved away to become a NASCAR publicist. Somehow we lost touch. Continue reading