Why Age Shouldn’t Define You: A Personal Perspective

Does the word “age” bother you?

Recently I was having a conversation with someone and used the phrase, “at this age…” He immediately interrupted me to say that I’m not old and he hates when people use age is a factor in what they can or can’t do.

I explained that I wasn’t saying ‘age’ as in ‘old,’ I was just making a comparison in what I think about the subject now as opposed to earlier in my life.

He obviously doesn’t know me well, as I don’t let age define me. I got my motorcycle license at age 59 and took swim lessons for the first time at age 64–right after I learned to kayak.

I have a few friends who also bristle at the word age. One substitutes the word, “vintage.” Another says at this “wisdom.” Sometimes I say, “at this stage,” in order not to offend the ones who object to “age.” I heard somewhere that we should call ourselves ‘Queenagers.’ I like that!

I’m not old. I am aging. I started the day I was born. And so did you.

Children love to answer the, “how old are you?” question. They are proud of every year. As am I. Age is how many years you’ve been alive. Old is an attitude.

Of course I don’t want to look old. Or act old. I actively work to take care of my body to stay youthful. To look younger, keep my balance and posture and to stay strong and flexible.

What about you? Does the word “age” bother you? How do you like to refer to this stage of your life? Tell me in the comments!

7 Galantine’s Day Activities Your Girlfriends Will Love

Did you know that Galentine’s Day was created in 2010 by the character Leslie Knope, on the TV show Parks and Recreation? Leslie, played by Amy Pohler, called, “Only the best day of the year!” is now celebrated by women everywhere on February 13th, the day before Valentine’s Day.

Having been single, or ‘re-singled’ as some say, since I was widowed in 2009, I’ve had more than a few solo Valentine’s Day’s. Some of my single friends have been a bit freaked out about being alone on V-day and found that making plans helped take away some of the sting. Galentine’s Day is a perfect holiday for us single gals. Here are some ideas for celebrating with your lady friends.

  1. Have a fun brunch. Like the gals at Parks and Recreation you can have brunch with gift bags, champagne, and lots of laughter. Retail therapy afterward and you can make an entire day of it!
  2. Go to a Movie. The year that the movie Fifty Shades of Grey was released on Valentine’s Day, I went with a gaggle of girlfriends. So much fun!
  3. Take in the arts. Theatre, ballet, or an art gallery would be a sophisticated way to celebrate. If you want to kick it up a notch, have your hair and make-up done and dress to the nines! Make it a night of fashion and fun!
  4. Do a progressive dinner. Uber to a walkable area and visit different restaurants or bars for drinks, appetizers, dinner, and dessert. Maybe go dancing after!
  5. Have a girls night in. Popcorn and movies in your PJ’s while you catch up on the latest gossip with old friends may be just what you need. Movie trivia games can make it even more fun!
  6. Book a spa day. Check local day spas and hotel spas for Galentine’s specials. Up for a drive? Check out ResortPass.com for a day pass to a nearby resort for a daycation.
  7. Get active. Go bowling, roller skating or ax throwing. Maybe there’s a Top Golf or Dave & Busters in your area you’ve wanted to check out. Grab your gal pals and go!

I always feel energized after hanging out with my women friends! Research shows that there are many physical and emotional benefits to having strong female friendships. Whether you’re with your one bestie or your whole tribe, Galentine’s Day is a wonderful way to celebrate the bonds of friendship!

How do you celebrate Galentine’s Day? Which of the 7 tips sounds most appealing to you? I’d love to hear your story!

New Year But No New Me!

Happy New Year 2024! Another year to Enjoy Life and Do Good!

It’s customary to start each year with resolutions and a ‘new year; new me’ mindset. I don’t want a new me. At this ‘vintage’ as a friend says to avoid the word ‘age’ I’ve done decades of resolutions, re-do’s, reboots, reflections, and renovations on myself and my business.

In my twenties I became a book-aholic and self-help junkie. My steady diet of self-help, positive mental attitude, spirituality, and how-to-fix-yourself books lasted decades! My career as a speaker/trainer/writer fueled this addiction. My life focused on day-planners, ‘smart goals,’ ‘to-do’ lists and measuring everything by what I did and, most often measuring myself harshly by what I’d left undone.

Not this year. Now as I enter the senior years (Yikes!) I like myself. I don’t want a new me. I just want to be more fully my authentic self and to ‘live my best life,’ as Oprah is famous for saying. At this stage, I want to ease up on the accelerator and enjoy life more. And I still want to live a life that matters and do purposeful work.

For several years now I’ve been praying a prayer that’s actually a MLK quote, “Use me, God. Show me how to take who I am, who I want to be and what I can do and use it for a purpose greater than myself.”

As you may know, my life philosophy and business tagline is ‘Enjoy Life and Do Good!’ I believe that resonates with many other women of my ‘vintage.’

I think that enjoying life is how we show gratitude for the life we’ve been given and that doing good is how we pay it forward.

This year I’ll be writing more about enjoying life and doing good.

What about you?

Are you at a stage of life where you’re over making resolutions?

Does enjoying life and doing good sound like a movement you want to be part of?

I look forward to hearing from you!

Fresh start

Don’t you love a fresh start?

That’s something I’m always thankful for. Whether it be a new day, a new year, a new job or a new relationship. I love a fresh new start to try something again. To have a second (or third or fourth) start at doing it over and maybe getting it right!

Today I’m doing a fresh start of this blog. I can’t believe it’s been five years since I posted here!

My friend Susan Reece and I had visited South Africa for our 60th birthdays and had a fabulous time! I posted a couple articles about our trip and intended to post more but life got in the way as it sometimes does.

In the last five years I’ve continued to travel, do a little writing and speaking, appeared on a few podcasts, spend time with family and friends and served on the board of Dress for Success Atlanta and on the advisory board of the Professional Women’s Information Network. I’ve made friends, lost friends, survived a pandemic, and taken a more active and ongoing role in caregiving as my mother has suffered several falls, surgeries, broken bones and stays in hospital and rehab.

Now I just turned 65. I’m a senior citizen. What??? Yes, you read that right. I’m a full-fledged senior citizen! I never thought being this old would feel this young! I got my motorcycle license at age 59, learned to kayak and took swimming lessons at age 64. Who knows what the next few years will bring!

I’m rededicating to writing this blog based on my business tagline and life philosophy of “Enjoy Life And Do Good!”

I truly believe that you can ‘enjoy life and do good’ at any age or stage of life.

Here you’ll find stories, humor, irreverence and insights I’ve learned as I purpose to enjoy life and do good!

I’d love it if you read along, subscribe, share, comment, reach out and let me know which articles speak to you and what topics you’d be interested in reading about. (Yes, I ended a sentence with a preposition. As Winston Churchill is often quoted “This is the type of errant pedantry up with which I will not put.”)

Here’s to fresh starts, do-overs and new days!

You can also follow me on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and visit my website at www.MyraMcElhaney.com. My memoir, Building A Life Your Love After Losing the Love of Your Life is available on Amazon.com or you can contact me at Myra@MyraMcElhaney.com for a signed, personalized copy.

Balance is a verb!

Susan, Myra, Sue, Barbara at Crested Butte 2016People often talk of “having balance” or “getting balance” or ‘being more balanced.” As if it’s a thing to get or something to achieve. Balance is a verb—an action word. It’s something you do. Some weeks you may balance well; others not so much.

I was reminded of this recently as I was taking a ski lesson. Continue reading

What makes you happy?

 

Happiness wall

Wall of happiness

 

Last weekend friends and fellow authors, June Cline, Sandy Weaver Carmen and I set out on the road to participate in the Southern Women’s Show in Savannah, Georgia where we had a booth to sell our books. I talk and write about enjoying life and doing good. June is a humorist and Sandy does programs on happiness. We called it our joy, humor and happiness tour. Continue reading

Coopetition Among Whales

Whales bubble-net feeding in Alaska
Whales bubble-net feeding in Alaska

I recently went on a whale-watching expedition while on an Alaskan cruise. We had seen one or two whales in the distance, blowing water high into the air, arching their backs just above water then diving with their tails flipping up as if to wave. Continue reading

How old is senior?

Young lady or old woman?

Young lady or old woman?

It happened today. For the first time. I always knew it was coming but I guess you’re never prepared.

“Are you using your senior discount today,” the clerk at Kroger asked.

“No,” I said automatically. Then, “What’s the age for senior discount?” I wanted to know how old she thought I looked. Continue reading